Be Willing To Understand Perspective

It's not easy, but that's the beauty of any relationship, which is love. We understand what someone else is saying doesn't mean we have to agree. The biggest part of my job is to listen to stories of people, why their life sucks, going through traumatic healing, whatever it is, I listen. I know it's not true, but I honour it as their reality. And there's a subtle difference because where we get screwed is we think our reality is the truth. Then we take it personally.

Our reality isn't the truth. Many other people's reality is just as true to them, and then when we come in asserting we're right, that's when we're stuck, we're blocked. There's no getting past that.

So if we can model richer understanding and richer curiosity, that is contagious. It's honouring everyone's perspective. It's the greatest gift we can give to another human. At least honour their reality. I mean, I hear some crazy realities, I don't condone it, I don't believe it or agree with it, but I respect it, and I honour it. And if I had their DNA and their parents raised me, and I had all of their troubles and tribulations, failures, and successes, I now understand their reality make sense to them.

So what's audacious of me is to judge somebody else's reality.

If we listen, we get to the heart of 'why". If I could hear their story, anybody I judge drops the compassion and have a deeper understanding now.

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